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advice from the most interesting man in the world: being boring

i’ve spent months collecting as much of this campaign that has been released featuring the most interesting man in the world. after establishing his persona, the ads turned to words of wisdom from his lips.

here’s his perspective on being boring. it’s another rare print ad!

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jb’s random thoughts: precious

an homage to my silly, funny friend johna beth’s old random thoughts blog and a place to write some things i’m thinking about…..randomly. jb applies because of my parents named me the biblical joseph benjamin.

my random thought today….

living in montgomery county and new york city, where good looks are emphasized, has warped my way of viewing people.

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signs of the end of the world: rape video games

my homage to rem’s its the end of the world as we know it and sport’s illustrated’s sign that the apocalypse is upon us…beyond a moment of zen, this feature displays wtf on steroids! leaving the realm of being humorous or laughable and entering the reality of really disturbing with(at least)one foot in evil territory.

facebook users should go to the original post for the disturbing video report

this will have people nostalgic for the good old innocent days of grand theft auto!

i especially like the couple who finds these games to be somewhat acceptable without a hint of social consequences. anybody ever consider the limits of freedom? …the diminishing returns on limitless freedom?

perhaps even more heinous?…equally heinous? is this tidbit about japan: “The national government is considering making possession of child pornography illegal — currently it is not. But this possible change to the law is due to outside pressure, not internal protest.”

“Japan has ways of expressing sexuality that are practically indecipherable to a Western sensibility but that are so normalized in Japan that the Japanese don’t often understand or acknowledge the critiques that are made against them,” Cleveland says. Cleveland believes the international debate will pressure Japan to amend its laws, making it harder for hentai games to be sold and distributed. He believes Japan will not comply for moral reasons but because “it’s politically expedient.”

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building a better patty: week 9

the days of leography are long gone…….

for the next year, we will explore different permutations of patty to honor our friend, patty. like with leo…we have enough to start but not to finish…as of yet! so submit your best and favorite patties…..

two months ago, we called her peppermint patty, paddy wagon, hamburger patty, mental tele-patty.

last month, we’ve called her patty mayonaise ,st. patty’s day, patty cake and filet o’ fish patty

this week, she will be called pattingdon bear as suggested by esther jhun

what’s your favorite patty?

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some of our favorite(maryland)things: chick fila breakfast

we’ve been traveling(at least in the blogosphere) so i thought i would share a few places that we like to eat at not in nyc. again, not necessarily the best or whatever superlative…just places we go to regularly when we are in your town.

this one will be an absolute pleasure to write!


my in laws new home is walking distance to chick fila but because of the winter storms where the baltimore area got the most snow in their recent history, i had to drive the 40 seconds up the block to get my family the most desired breakfast in the tsang family. i have been dreaming about this since i did a walk through of the home with them. i approved this baller place just based on chick fila.


the best item on the menu is this……a chicken, cheese and egg omelet on a multigrain bagel. we realize that it’s mom and baby…but its so good. just a hint of sweetness to go along with the savory everything else.

another favorite are the mini chicken biscuits. mmmmm….buttermilk. mmmmm……chicken. mmmm…..buttermilk and chicken. the chicken at chick fila has a hint of fried chicken southern spiciness.


i think i like the mini’s more than the (much)bigger big brother version but then the chicken biscuit is a bigger cutlet so it just depends on your appetite. theresa’s mom and grandma split the mini’s! and everyone in theresa’s family loves the tater tots.


i grab a bunch of the extras to accompany the chicken and give different takes on the grub above…..tabasco and texas peter hot sauce; some honey roasted bbq mustard sauce, a nice dipping sauce.


….mints for grandma and some table toppers for zoe so we can put food right on a table……


we wound up using our more sturdy permanent version…but zoe had a yummy time nonetheless! i had a grand time(shock!)

this place and the breakfast will have my daughter clamoring to go to grandma’s!!!! my daughter meaning me.

my in laws think i am a nut.

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easter 2010

it is my honor to once again post these videos by my friend leo chen. i’ve looked for videos to retell the story of easter online and have only found stuff with printed words hurtling at you through the screen. this series produced by leo still moves me in new ways each time i watch them. individually they are insightful and quirky. as an arc, they are layered and profound.

on easter, meditate with me on the promise of a new day and age.

facebook folks will have to go to the original posts.

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at the movies: greenberg

this movie can be dismissed as  another middle aged fantasy about a 40 year old gen x’r who is involved with a 25 year old girl…but here’s what i appreciated about it. and its not what you think. the movie gets the kafka-esque, unbearable lightness of getting older right…not old as in the winter years…but the late summer and with the fall around the corner. what do we make of these years? we don’t think we’re that old but as ben stiller as greenberg discovers at a party with 20 somethings…we are not cool. kids think that we are smirk worthy.

this is a movie about being 40.

there are a few tracks outlined for the 40 somethings: ben’s brother who is living the dream with wife, kids, baller house and 7 week vacation to vietnam(7 weeks????); ben’s best friend who has given up youthful things including drugs and other risky behaviors for a shot at domestication; ben’s ex who is now old and uncool….and then ben who is stuck doing….nothing. since the brother’s trajectory is not accessible all, what will the rest of us choose?

greta gerwig is fantastic as florence….a sweet, lost everyday girl…she gets it pitch perfect as a real 20 something who says things they would say including things that make no sense…there’s no overscripting or overacting. this movie is just as much about her as it is about the title character. she’s just as confused about being 20 as greenberg is about being 40. too many choices…too much time…not enough answers and if there are any, our defenses are on dismissal.

since i am turning 40, this movie was haunting especially in the connection and romance level. ben/greenberg has nothing in common with florence but she’s the one he wants. kind of. when he tries to romance his ex who he is on equal footing with, its forced and she doesn’t want anything to do with him either. so what’s the point of acting your age?

there is also the burden of carrying your regrets. the energy and hubris of youth does not always serve us and your former friends are now here to remind you of the sum of your choices.

there are not a lot of answers….that’s the post modern way. but there is a lot of emotional connection. also the post modern way.

i liked this movie a lot and would watch it over again to get all the nuances and layers. for example, i could have reviewed the movie as most have as a shrink analysis.

i don’t think i would buy this movie. and i must warn less profane readers that there are some strong sexual scenes though they are played for laughs…or is it for sadness. theresa would have thought that there was too much talk.

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lent 2010: good friday

it is my honor to once again post these videos by my friend leo chen. i’ve looked for videos to retell the story of easter online and have only found stuff with printed words hurtling at you through the screen. this series produced by leo still moves me in new ways each time i watch them. individually they are insightful and quirky. as an arc, they are layered and profound.

on good friday, meditate with me on the promise of a new day and age.

facebook folks will have to go to the original posts.

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overheard in my household: “…not that theatre…”

inspired by the sweet, funny things my friend’s son amoz says….here are not sweet at all and embarrassing things to find yourself laughing at; overheard when my relatives get together. try to imagine asians being racist. i know its hard to do. in the privacy of our homes, here are the super not pc things i’ve endured……

me: “….how about we go to the ****** theatre?”

relative: “no good. black people go to that theatre.”

me: “…uh, how about *********?”

relative: “yes, that’s fine. white people there.”


i’m sure this only happens in my house.

the identity of relatives have been protected.

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baby zoe: fashion week winter 2010

my first fashion show thanks to emo jo and twinkle. its the last fashion week at bryant park…next time will be closer to us at lincoln center taking up the space that the big apple circus normally makes its residence for the christmas holidays. me and mom got a seat because we played the baby and mom/woman cards. dad got to stand in the back because nobody gave up their seat for him. sexism is alive and well.

he’s over my right shoulder.

the show was quick! i think we waited longer in line where they herded the hoi polloi around. vip’s zipped in.

i danced to the funky tunes winning the hearts of the bloggers and the fashion die hards around us. someone wanted to do a story on me but i wasn’t going to be around the next day. wah wah. no one had seen a baby at a fashion show before.

my parents take me everywhere.

maybe i’ll be a model one day. i look pretty nifty in my get up that emo sue got me. all i have to do is lose some weight.

…..forget it! i like food too much. maybe i’ll be a designer instead. or a chef.

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